One of the cruelest tricks opposing forces uses against us when we are facing some of life’s toughest battles is to try to steal our self-worth or esteem. You went out on a limb and started that business you just knew would change your future, only to be left in ruins after its demise. Or maybe you decided to give it one more try and risk being vulnerable enough to start a new relationship, knowing the risk, and eventually feeling yet again the sting when the relationship fails.
If you are alive, you have failed at something in your life. Some failures are more devastating than others, and the responses may vary depending on the mental toughness of the victim, but no one can walk through life unscathed by some sort of failure or set-back that left you with doubts and questions. We all face opposing forces that are keenly tuned into our thoughts, looking for any signs of weakness or openings suitable for an attack on what’s left of our esteem. And sadly, too often we become willing parties unaware of the schemes and pitfalls laid before us.
Most of us bear more than one title during our existence. I can hold the titles of father, husband, employee, student, Christian, son, etc., and so can most of you. These titles should be viewed as separate descriptions of the numerous levels and roles we play. In a perfect world, when one of those titles changes or is taken from us, the other titles remain effective and unaltered. If fired from a job, I’m still a father; if a dropout of college, still a son, and so on and so forth. But for some, and admittedly at times for me, when we suffer failures that shake our core in one are of our life, we start to question our worth over our entire universe. If I failed as a husband, I must not be a very good father either; if I can’t run a successful business, I’m surely a poor employee for anyone else. If I’m not the best parent, I’m probably not a very good friend. The cycle is vicious and spins out of control until such a time that we lose our complete identity because of a single collapse in just one area of our universe. The enemy seizes onto this like a drowning person to a life preserver.
It is in times like these that a handful of strong friends can be vital, if we are transparent enough to communicate our issues with them. Men are not good at this, even when they have friends like brothers. We view it as a sign of weakness to admit our fears with each other. The war on our esteem begins in our mind. There is a scripture that compels is to hold each thought captive. Too many times our feelings overide our intellect-we easily disregard what we know to be true in our minds because we allow the heart to dictate the filtering process of our knowledge. Feelings are often a poor indicator of reality!
Prayer and times of quiet reflection can be great remedies and defenses against attacks on our mind, but there are also other tools available to us. A hobby or special interest can be a welcomed distraction; volunteering for a local charity will give you back a sense of worth and purpose. I’ve been blessed somewhat with an ability to write. In tough times writing has been my therapy. And the transparency in real time of my challenges has been an encouragement to those who have opted to follow this blog. The point to be made is that in your weakest moments, your times of fear and doubt, you still have much to contribute! And dare I suggest that for the believer, the trials are meant as a vehicle for you to use to make an impact on others, much like an AA sponsor does with womeone seeking sobriety. You are never as worthless as you allow youself to believe; the stripping of one title doees not eliminate or alter all the others.
In exercise, strength and muscle gain are only achieved when those muscles are tessted beyond their strength. Life for most is just one long exercise with our weaknesses being strained for new growth. Don’t become your own worst enemy in the growth process. Hold fat to what is true and use it to propel yourself to new titles, bringing a few who need your encouragement allong for the ride! Blessings on your journey.
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